Building Connection Through Communication

In today's fast-paced world, finding the time and energy to connect with your young people in meaningful ways can be challenging.

The importance of communication

In the video below, Yusuf reads a heartfelt letter to his mother. This kind of communication is made possible by the environment and space parents work to create for communication, trust, and being flexible to children’s needs.

Building Connection Through Communication: A letter from self-directed learner Yusuf

Observations

Balance empathy and support: Communicating clearly and listening actively to ensure that both parents and children understand each other’s needs and desires
Create an environment of openness: Encouraging and modeling open communication, active listening, and empathy in interactions with children can help foster strong relationships and emotional intelligence
Spend quality time together: Be present with young people and try to see the world through their eyes

intentional communication

Communication is the foundation of a strong family bond, and it starts with the parents. Building a strong and loving relationship with your young people starts with open, honest, and regular communication. Improving communication skills can help families address feelings, resolve conflicts, and help young people feel confident to express themselves. It takes time, openness, vulnerability, patience, and a lot of self-reflection on the parents’ part.

In today’s fast-paced world, finding the time and energy to connect with your young people in meaningful ways can be challenging. But with a little consistency and effort, you can create a lasting bond that will help them thrive in the future. Set aside distractions and fully immerse yourself in the moment. One way to be open to their perspective is by asking questions like, “what activity would you like us to do together?” Be present and engaged, but only add to the experience when you understand their direction and have their consent.

Creating a strong bond with your family can start with a simple weekly tradition – the family meeting. Imagine gathering with your family to catch up on each other’s lives, review upcoming events, and share any needs, challenges, or celebrations. Though decision-making plays a strong role, family meetings primarily represent the space and opportunity for family members to share what’s present to ensure everyone is informed.

questions to ask yourself

Consider these prompts as you explore how you can encourage communication in your family:

Does my child have a say in family decisions? Are there decisions my child(ren) isn’t included in and is this defensible?
What forms of my child(ren)’s communication are triggering/angering me? Have I discussed this with them? Why is this form of communication triggering? Is it a sign of my own childhood wound?
Am I rushing through something? Am I rushing my child(ren) through something? If so, why?

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